The causes of infidelity are complex and varied. Affairs can occur in happy marriages as well as in troubled ones. Here we look at the various affair types and provide a basic treatment strategy for that affair type. 7 types of affairs infographic

7 step infidelity recovery method

Type 1: Accidental Affair

  • AKA: The One Nite Stand Affair

Type 2: Avoidance Affair Type

  • Intimacy avoidance affair
  • Conflict avoidance affair

Type 3:Philanderer Affair

  • Womanizer

Type 4: Entitlement Affair

  • Royal Affair

Type 5: Split Self Affair (Romantic Affair)

  •  Romantic Affair
  • Mid-Life Crisis
  • Coming Out Affair

Type 6: Exit Affair

  • AKA: Out The Door Affair

Type 7: Sexual Addiction Affair

  • AKA: Sex Addict


Determining your affair type

Take the Affair Type Quiz. This quiz will help you do a quick analysis on the type of affair.

I would encourage you to read the descriptions of each affair type and then determine which one best characterizes your experience. You may notice, your affair condition fitting into several categories and this is entirely possible.

Affair relationships, like any other relationship, do not follow a consistent pattern. For example, what may start out as a “one night stand” has developed into an avoidance affair.

As you are here to find answers to why you were unfaithful, or to why your spouse was unfaithful, I ask you to take a deep breath before you begin. Try and let go of your need to fit into a category perfectly.

The Infidelity Recovery Institute has a treatment plan for each of the 7 affair types. However, you will notice that the treatment plan will not be available for public viewing as the content is sensitive (especially to an individual who has been betrayed).

Trained and certified IRI professionals are able to provide you with the support and guidance to help you process these deep emotional wounds.

When choosing a professional to assist you with affair recovery, remember that affairs have psychological deep-seeded roots. Check your professional has a foundation in psychology, with years of experience in couples therapy, and has a method/process they current use with clients in affair recovery.

Emotional affairs

Emotional affairs, which do not include sexual contact, are also affairs. Although the dynamics are similar, the lack of an overtly sexual component means that the volatility and sense of betrayal is substantially less.

For example, I have found men to be more forgiving if the wife had an emotional affair, over a sexual affair. The sad reality is, that it is more difficult for a women to end an emotional affair over a sexual liaison. Emotional affairs are sexual affairs in the making. I choose to treat and classify emotional affairs, with the affair message they are sending.

The most threatening aspect is not the affair it’s self, but the dishonesty that it casts out over the entire relationship.

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Financial Infidelity

Though it is not quite as serious as being with another person, financial infidelity can cause similar issues in regards to trust. Not only do you have to work through this aspect of the relationship, you usually have to work to get out of a financial mess that happened as a result of the financial infidelity.

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