“You don’t really understand human nature unless you know why a child on a merry-go-round will wave at his parents every time around – and why his parents will always wave back.” – William D. Tammeus
When confronting your man about their infidelity, it’s hard to tell whether or not they are telling the truth. It’s this uncertainty that can be the hardest thing to deal with. Not knowing for sure that your man is telling the truth can lead to further mistrust and withdrawal. It’s necessary then, when you confront your man about their infidelity, to be able to identify whether they are telling the truth or not. In some respects you need to become a human lie detector.
This isn’t as hard as it may sound. There are visual clues and subtle changes in voice patterns, tone of voice and body language that can almost always give away a liar. The trick is to know what these subtle changes are and to be able to look for them in your man.
To be able to better understand lying behavior in your man, you first need to be able to understand the differences in how men and women lie.
Men tend to lie to make themselves look good, whereas women lie to conform to what they believe are society’s expectations of them. What is meant by this is that men lie to make themselves look good in their own eyes, regardless of what society’s expectations may be.
Women, on the other hand, tend to lie to conform to society’s expectations or other’s expectations of them. In this respect, women tend to very much care what others think and are guided to lie to meet others expectations.
It doesn’t necessarily take one to know one. But you can spot differences in behavior that point to your man trying to cover something up. However, in order to do this accurately, you need to know your man pretty well.
If they are usually a fast talker and they are now sitting in front of you and speaking slowly and carefully, you have every reason to think that something is not right. If they always look you in the eye and they are looking everywhere other than in your eye, you may want to get the truth out of them. If they are usually very calm and they are now very agitated and twitchy, you may have reason to believe that they are hiding something.
It can be as obvious as this, or it may be something very subtle, like a twitch or a nervous habit that develops, like scratching or playing with their hair, or tapping their feet. The key is to identify things that are out of the ordinary. If you confront your man, you should be able to look closely for subtle changes in their behavior as they are trying to answer you.
If you have caught your man by surprise, they will be thinking quickly to cover their tracks. Its in doing this that the most noticeable changes will occur.
The most obvious changes will be in their body language.