Help for Therapists
(and their Clients) in dealing with affairs
Based on the results of a survey
of 1,083 people whose spouses had affairs
This book reports the results of a Survey on Extramarital Affairs involving 1,083 participants whose spouses had had affairs. Each participant answered 35 multiple-choice questions as well as responding (on an open-ended basis) to the question: “How could therapists be more effective in dealing with affairs?”
You have written a terrific resource for the lay public and therapists alike. What an effective use of quotes. And I value the data about dissatisfaction with therapists; it’s such a crap shoot for people seeking help. Your comments about how marital therapists ignore the affair were quite telling. Congratulations on an important public service.
–William J. Doherty, Ph.D., Director of the Marriage and Family Therapy Program, Department of Family Social Science, University of Minnesota.
From the many comments offered in response to this question, 12 points of “Advice to Therapists” are included in the book, along with the direct quotes from respondents. The information gained from the responses to this survey will be useful not only for therapists in more effectively dealing with this issue–but also for those who are currently struggling to recover from a spouse’s affair.
I think this book is nothing short of magnificent. It confirms everything that my patients have taught me over the last 28 years. I think it is a must for those who have experienced an affair, and equally important for those who treat affairs. For therapists, the page on patients’ advice to them is worth the price of the book.
–Don-David Lusterman, Ph.D., author of “Infidelity: A Survival Guide.”