Affair recovery, step by step
Wherever you are standing after an affair, start here.
The Institute’s 7-Step Method is a structured coaching program with a beginning, a middle and an end. Choose the path that fits you today.
Choose your path
Path 1
I’ve been betrayed
You found out, and nothing feels steady. Start with what is happening to you, why your reactions make sense, and what the first weeks can look like.
- Infidelity 101: what is happening to you
- Affair recovery timeline, month by month
- Which of the 7 affair types fits your story?
Or start the full 7-Step Program ($147)
Path 2
I’ve had an affair
You want to understand how it happened and what repair asks of you. Practical steps, without shaming you and without excuses.
- What your partner is going through right now
- How to talk about the affair without making it worse
- The 7-Step Affair Recovery Program (2027 Edition)
Or start the full 7-Step Program ($147)
Path 3
I’m a professional
Therapists, coaches and clergy: a structured 7-step coaching framework for guiding couples through affair recovery, built around the 7 affair types.
- Self-paced 7-Step Professional Training
- 12-session couple program and intake tools
- 2025 Edition $397, with the 2027 Edition free
Not sure where you fit? Take the Affair Type Quiz
You don’t have to go through this alone
Join the Institute’s free Affair and Infidelity Support Group on Facebook: a private place to read, ask and talk with others who understand.
The IRI Method in brief
A coaching program, not open-ended therapy. Each step answers specific questions and builds skills, so both partners can decide what comes next with clarity.
New: The 7-Step Affair Recovery Program (2027 Edition)
A self-paced program for couples and individuals, rebuilt for 2027: six parts, practical exercises and clear graphics. Start today for $147 and work through it at your own pace.
See the programWhy a coaching program?
Between 40 and 60% of couples end therapy early. The IRI Method was designed in clinical practice to keep couples moving through a defined set of steps, so they reach a decision they can both live with, whether that is rebuilding or ending with clarity.
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