10 Common Excuses People Give for Infidelity

One of the aims of having a monogamous relationship is to enjoy love, trust, and oneness. It is also to build a home where kids would grow up with both parents by their side. Unfortunately, all these can be destroyed by an infidelity.

When a person is caught cheating, he might have more than a thousand excuses for his infidelity. While some of these excuses might seem appealing but that wouldn’t prevent the damage caused by the affair.

If we decide to accept excuses then the rate of infidelity would be increased and the aim of marriage would be forfeited. Today, we shall look at some common excuses given by unfaithful individuals after they have been caught.

“I’m a man so it’s normal to cheat”

This is a popular excuse given for infidelity. Such men would tell you that biologically, it is very normal for a man to be unfaithful. Besides, other lower animals don’t stick to one partner so why should men?  They also say that since life is short, no one should be restricted from getting the best adventures. This includes constantly exploring one’s sexuality.

“It was just for sex not love”

This excuse is commonly given by men. Such men would tell you that patronizing prostitutes isn’t infidelity since they don’t keep any emotional connection with them. When a woman sells her body in exchange for a job, promotion, money or whatever reason, she could also give such an excuse.

“I was seduced”

Most unfaithful individuals would rather not accept their mistakes so immediately they are caught they would blame it on the other person. They could also lie about being seduced and drugged just to get away.

“I cheated because my partner had cheated too”

A lady said she cheated because her man had been unfaithful. In her dictionary, the word “forgiveness” has been replaced with “revenge”. If you cheat in revenge, you would end up adding a new wound to the relationship while the previous one is still unhealed.

“I was lonely and bored”

Do you feel it’s your partner’s responsibility to always make you happy?  If yes, then that is a wrong feeling. It is your responsibility to keep yourself happy at all times.  If you are feeling bored, get a hobby. If you are feeling lonely, you can either get busy with work or talk to your partner about it.  You guys can plan a trip together.

“It Was Just Once”

Does it really matter if it was done once?  The fact remains that the bond of trust was broken. Besides, when they say it was once, after an investigation you could discover that it was even more than ten times.

It was YOUR fault

Sometimes, the unfaithful spouse could have an endless list of things his partner did (or didn’t do) that made him have an affair. If you feel your spouse isn’t meeting up in any aspect, discuss the issues with her. Don’t cheat and blame it on her when you should be asking for forgiveness.

“I was only trying to help her out “

” I don’t really know when we started having an affair. She was going through domestic violence and confided in me. I was only trying to help her get through this stage of her life then suddenly, we got attracted to each other.  ”

When she confided in you about her issues, if you had no intention of having an affair with her then you should have told your spouse everything that was going on. The fact that you hid the relationship means you really wanted to have a secret affair, unfortunately, you got caught.

“I married the wrong person”

When a marriage becomes filled with conflicts and misunderstanding, instead of working on resolving the issues, a partner might decide to cheat. To him/her, infidelity serves as an escape route from a bad marriage.

“I don’t know why I did it”

Whether this is true or false, you must still face the consequences of your actions.  As an adult, I believe you can always differentiate right from wrong. You also have the ability to think thoroughly before doing anything. So, if that’s true then I don’t think your partner would be willing to accept such an excuse.

“She would always forgive me “

That is another reason why most people cheat.  Such persons take their partner’s love and forgiveness for granted while forgetting that everyone has an elastic limit. She might have forgiven you severally but don’t be surprised if she locks you out this time around. 

“I was starving sexually”

Although, having a fulfilling sex life with your partner is very important but I still want to believe that you didn’t get married solely because of sex. If that is true then I don’t see why you should consider infidelity instead of looking out for ways to fix the couple sex life.

If your partner isn’t providing the sexual satisfaction that you need, then talk to her. Teach her what you want her to do for you. If she’s still unwilling then you can get her to see a sex therapist.

“You’re Just Paranoid”

If he tells you that you are just being paranoid, that simply means he feels no remorse for his actions. Also, he might try to make you believe you are losing your mind over little things.  That’s a form of emotional abuse which you mustn’t tolerate. Trust your instincts and confront him directly if need be.