10 Mistakes Couples Commonly Repeat in Their Relationships

Many couples have problems. This is normal – we are all human after all and different aspects of our life often affect our relationships as well. So, one day our boss can yell at us, and we’ll come home and ignore our partner, be angry at them for some reason and so on. These are all basic things that often happen. However, that’s a problem – it’s a solution that you have to come up with.

But couples often make a mistake that hurt their relationship. Here are some of the most common mistakes people make in relationships repeatedly:

Making too much time for friends, too little for each other

Many couples like to spend some time apart – that’s normal and healthy. But the real problem is when a couple has too many of these nights when they spend time with friends and not with each other. This breaks a relationship. Instead of this, try spending more nights in, with each other or out having dinners, watching movies, dancing or drinking together. Some nights with friends, separately are still fine but focus more on each other.

Not talking about your feelings

Some people simply have trouble talking about their feelings. It’s bad when someone in a relationship can’t talk on this subject. “They often end up hurt and start holding a grudge against their partner, when they didn’t even tell their partner why they are angry or sad. Make sure that you and your partner trust each other enough to talk about everything,” says Ellie Simpson, a lifestyle writer at 1day2write and Australia2write.

Not talking about your money issues

If one partner has money issues, the other partner should know. In most cases, people in a relationship split their funds to pay for different things and if one partner is having trouble, the other should be there to support them and help them get through that. Again, be available for each other and trust each other enough to talk about these things.

Not spending time with each other

Make sure that you spend plenty of time with each other and without your phones or any distractions. This will make your relationship stronger.

Working too much

If one of you or both of you work too much, this means that you are too busy to be with each other. Make sure that you create a good work-life balance so that you can maintain a healthy relationship.

Holding a grudge

If you have some issues, talk about it. Don’t be angry at each other, and don’t hold a grudge. When you get mad at your partner, tell them what’s bothering you.

Depending only on each other for happiness

There are some couples that depend on each other too much. This the wrong way to handle things. You need to be a happy person with yourself and with who you are instead of relying the other person to make you happy.

You are putting everything else first

Just like with friends and work, there are many things that couples regularly put first instead of their relationship. This is a bad thing because this way, there is no time to actually enjoy each other. So, for example, if you have children and you keep putting off your dates, conversations or simply some together alone time, this is a bad thing. Even with children, find a way to find each other. Hire a babysitter, a member of a family to look after them or find other ways to be with each other. Alone time is essential for any couple.

You take each other for granted

Taking your partner for granted is one of the worst things you can do. “It makes them feel bad and sad, underappreciated. Learn to find joy in your partner again, and everything they do for your relationship,” says Georgia Plant, a relationship blogger.

Not working on your relationship

Every relationship is hard work. This is what you have to realize. But the difference between successful couples and unsuccessful couples is that successful couples work on their relationships and make time for each other whenever possible.

Being in a relationship is one of the best things that can happen to any person. But over time, we lose sense of what’s really important and we tend to neglect our partners, take them for granted, put other things before them and so on. You need to learn to fix this, slowly and patiently, by working together. Avoid these mistakes to have a successful relationship.

Katrina Hatchett works as a lifestyle blogger at Academic Brits. She has been involved in various business projects, where her main aim is to define project problems and propose solutions, as well as improving overall communication effectiveness. Also, she writes for Origin Writings, academic service.