6 Ways to Forget an Ex after a Separation

Having a divorce might seem to be the only solution to some of the issues encountered in your marriage but have you ever thought about how you would live without that person you had once vowed to spend the rest of your life with?

Getting separated from your loved one often leaves you with feelings of emptiness, frustration and disappointments. You would miss his love, kisses, touches, jokes, company and everything. Let’s say you really wanted a divorce and had felt you wouldn’t miss him/her much but just few days after the divorce you just can’t stop thinking about your ex. What would you do in such situation?

After a breakup forgetting your ex would be one of the challenges you might have to go through. There is unfortunately no miraculous cure to forget an ex. But there are some attitudes that can help you in accepting your new status and turning over to the new page.

1. Reduce the connection and cut the ties:

“How did I forget my ex? By making him disappear from my life. I deleted our connections on social media and eliminated some mutual friends that weren’t useful to me. Sad though, but it was the only solution. I also stopped going to our favorite bars. I moved to a new lane where I met new people. “

Clara, 25 years old.

2. Control your thoughts

“After my first break up, I was so obsessed with thoughts of my ex. I would wake up in the middle of the night just to cry over the breakup. I thought about him 24/7 and my emotions were outweighing.
So, I decided to control my thoughts. I avoided staying alone and idle. I made sure I was busy with one task or the other. It helped me more during the day but at night I still found myself thinking about him.”

Audrey, 23 years old.

3. Go out and make new friends:
“After my divorce, I started going out like never before. I went clubbing every weekend, made new friends and flirted with some guys but I didn’t go to bed with any one of them.
During those dates, I found temporary happiness. I was able to regain my self-confidence which was bruised by my ex. “

Alicia, 29 .

4. Set your priorities and focus on them:

“After my divorce, my children were all I had left. I knew I had to be strong for them and could not afford to let myself fall into depression. Looking back, I really think that’s what saved me. We all have different priorities. Figure out your priority and work towards achieving them.”

Debbi, 43 years old.

5. Time heals it all:

“In my case, it was time that healed my pains and helped me move on. I had thought I would forget about everything so quickly but it didn’t work that way.
Days and weeks passed yet the wound and memories were still fresh but after a while, I noticed that I was gradually going through a steady healing process.”

Felicia, 30.

6. Fall in love again:

“After being in a relationship for four years, my ex and I broke up. I was devastated and that experience made me become less serious about love, relationship and commitment. I didn’t let myself develop feelings for anyone not until a year later when I fell in love again. This time the guy was just the perfect match. He loved me unconditionally and that made me release myself to him. So finally, I didn’t just get over my ex instead I found a better love.”

Victoria, 28.

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Like I mentioned earlier, there is no quick remedy to forgetting an ex. To succeed you will need determination, patience and time. You will need to abstain from some certain habits too.

You can’t say you want to forget your ex but every day you are stalking him/her on the streets and social media. You can’t say you want to forget your ex but every day you are recalling all the mistakes he/she made. Let it all go.

To forget your ex, you must avoid thoughts of him, set new priorities, get busy, be happy, be positive and move on with your life. In situations where a kid is involved then you should only be concerned about matters relating to the kid’s welfare with little or no attention to your ex’s personal affairs. That’s the secret to forgetting an ex.