7 Ways to Stop Feeling Insecure in Your Relationship

Don’t feel good enough?

Everyone has insecurities; it is just how life works. It doesn’t matter whether you look like you walked out of a fashion magazine or you feel like the least attractive bum on the planet. These insecurities make us human but running rampant, they can spell doom for an otherwise healthy relationship.

It is therefore important to not only identify them but to also put in an effort towards dealing with the insecurities. Here are a few tips and tricks that should come in handy if you ever find yourself feeling not good enough for your partner.

How to stop feeling insecure

• Take a good look in the mirror

Sometimes all you need to get over these insecurities is to give yourself a dose of self-love. It is easy to do. All you need is a mirror, good lighting, and a great attitude. If you look close enough you will always find something to love about someone; that includes yourself. So take the time to study your body, your face and your hair and trust me you will find so much to appreciate that it will shock you.

• Believe his/her compliments

If your partner compliments you on something, do not dismiss it. That is their way of reassuring you that you are not only beautiful but worthy of love. It is common for people to project their insecurities onto their partners by choosing to see anything good said as a lie. Do not fall into this emotional trap; choose to trust your beau.

• Address your trust issues

Some insecurities stem from problems with trust and are not self-image issues. For example, this often comes up in online dating relationships. You are probably scared that your partner might cheat on you or leave you. These insecurities are usually a result of lack of trust in the relationship. Dealing with this disconnect is the only way to get over the uncertainty.

• Do not entertain self-criticizing thoughts

More often than not, self-doubt is as a result of harsh self-criticism. It truly is all in your head, and you are the only one who can see those problems you think are so major. The best thing to do here is to ignore that annoying inner voice in your head that is always trying to bring you down.

• Be open about your insecurities

Another great way to deal with insecurities is letting your partner know about them. It is particularly important as a way to prevent your significant other from unintentionally attacking them. Especially if you are in a long distance relationship and they can´t always see how something makes you feel. Letting your partner know also gives them a chance to reassure you and prove to you that all that negativity is all in your head.

• Get rid of that toxic partner

There are some partners who, despite being aware of your insecurities, still go out of their way to use them against you. If you are in such a relationship, then you need to get yourself out. It is already too toxic to salvage.

• Maintain a level of independence

Insecurity can also be as a result of relying entirely on your significant other for emotional, financial and even social support. The fact that you are not in control means that there is a lot of uncertainty to deal with. To avoid this, learn to stand on your own two feet and become the source of your strength and support.

Author