My therapist said I should join a support group

You may already be receiving some guidance from a therapist, but he or she may have suggested that you develop or strengthen your support network. If this is the case, then you have come to the right place.

Many people become overwhelmed with relationship problems, carrying around worries on their own, thinking that it may be best to deal with it alone rather than reach out for help. Sometimes we assume that our situation is so different and that others will probably just not get it. But the reality is that each and every one of us is physiologically wired the same way, and although the reasons may be different, for the most part we all experience the same physical reactions. The tightness in our chests, the shortened breaths, the lethargy, and sometimes even feeling sick. Many people have gone through this and come out the other end to experience brighter and happier days, and whatever your current situation is, just know you also deserve to feel at ease and happy, and that this is a reality well within your grasp.

Perhaps you are having issues with your partner at an early stage of your relationship, or you may already be in the midst of a very upsetting divorce proceeding. There may be cultural or religious variables at play, or a particular dynamic that is absent from what you consider to be other “normal” relationships. But when we listen to the stories that couples tell us, every issue when drawn back to its origin can be understood in its simplest form. These are issues that occur time and time again, with people from all walks of life. So be open to the possibility of developing your support network, and don’t be too quick to assume that other people will not be able to understand or offer you the support you need. There is no need to go through this alone.

If you’re already seeing a therapist, whether in person or online, then it is clear you are taking steps to ensure the longevity of your relationship. Perhaps it is because you have children with the other person, or because you believe that overall when taking all good and bad into account, you believe this particular person is good by nature and has made some terrible mistakes. Terrible, although not unforgivable. The reality is that none of us are infallible, we all make mistakes and sometimes it is how we deal with the mistakes of others and our own, that people are given the opportunity to transform into better versions of themselves. Whatever the specific reason is for deciding to reach out and connect with others, it is definitely a good decision you arrived at.

If you’re the sort of person who would prefer to be part of an online support network, feel free to join our facebook group for infidelity recovery support by clicking here. Also, the value of movement cannot be understated – if you are not already involved in some sort of activity like walking or yoga, we highly recommend you implement a little of this everyday. If you can do this with a family member, friend, or someone who is supportive and understanding of your situation, this will alleviate a little stress and do wonders for your mood.

On this website we regularly post articles and tips for people dealing with infidelity, sometimes it is aimed at a particular scenario such as those in the midst of divorce proceedings, so feel free to check back every so often and have a browse. We also aim to share the best resources and most up to date information. If you are in a very grey area at the moment and want to save your marriage but not quite sure how to go about it, we recommend clicking here and taking a look at a great online resource that deals specifically with saving your marriage no matter how complicated the details may be. If you’re not seeing a therapist but would be interested in seeing one, please get in touch with us so we can try to match you with one of our infidelity recovery specialists.

Please feel free to comment with any questions or feedback. We wish you the best on your successful path to recovery.