Affair Facts

• Only 10% will marry their affair partner and then there is huge mistrust when married. If you leave someone and expect to have a long term relationship with the partner in the affair the chances are 1-2%.
• Shirley Glass Says- infidelity is more likely to lead to divorce if the unfaithful spouse is the wife.
• For women, it only takes one liaison and they are more likely to divorce. For men, it takes a serious relationship to divorce.
• There is a higher chance of divorce if affair is combined-type involvement which equals sex and emotional connection. Wives had more of this type of affair.
• Women are more likely to have affairs with old flames, friends, or neighbors.
• Most affairs are happening at work. From 1990 to present, 50% of wives had affairs at work; between 1980-90, 38% had work affairs.
• Internet Chats are a real problem — partners are more accessible and it fills the need of emotional connection late at night when one of the partners has gone to sleep.
• As many women are having affairs as men.
• When unfaithful wives were younger than 31 years old with no kids, they were more likely to divorce after an affair.
• Men are more likely than women to separate sex and love.
• 26% of men said that they could have sex without becoming emotionally involved; only 3% of women said the same.
• Two thirds of husbands and wives regarded falling in love as justification to have affair.
• Couples need to learn to distinguish “falling in love” and “being in love”. “Mature strong love” is a committed long-term relationship that is good enough and may not always be fantastic.
• No one can compete with the excitement and novelty of an affair because it is Secret, dangerous, passionate and novel.
• Speaking of novelty, National Geographic reports that the relationships that take place in exciting or novel environments create the same chemical reactions in the brain that feels like love: it is the newness and secrecy makes it feel like love.
• There is little reality to an affair because both partners are not in their normal environments.
• In the majority of cases, the spouse does not know about the affair.
• Most predictive emotional cue is not saying “I love you” to the partner anymore.
• Discloser of infidelity by women more frequently leads to divorce.
• Men who had mothers with philander issues exhibit pathological jealously and women with dads that were philanders tended to stay with their husbands if they were philanders as well.

*Source: NOT Just Friends by Shirley Glass