dToday I was asked a question.. “What percentage of relationships result in infidelity?” I’m often asked this question, and the answer is as loose as the question itself. Firstly, you must consider the definition of infidelity. Dictionary.com defines infidelity as: 1. is the action or state of being unfaithful to a spouse or other sexual […]
Having a friend with the opposite sex is not wrong. But it can go wrong for your relationship really fast if you are not 100% mindful of your language and behavior. It truly amuses me to no end when an unfaithful spouse presents for affair recovery counseling, and tries to justify the innocence of […]
The path to forgiveness lies in understanding the reasons why people betray. People are true to themselves, so in that context, there is no betrayal. Betrayal comes from not being authentic to who we really are as individuals, and then not sharing our values with our partner. Forgiveness lies in understanding what each person truly […]
Sometimes, couples feel a relationship growing apart before the end is near. Perhaps there is distance from one side of the relationship, or there is a missed a connection between you and your partner. This can lead to doubts about the relationship itself, and makes people wonder if their partner still loves them. We see […]
emotionally unavailable Does your relationship make you feel empty & alone? If you’ve ever been in a relationship with someone emotionally unavailable, you know the pain of not being able to get close to the one you love. They’re evasive, make excuses, or are just inept when it comes to talking about feelings or the […]
“I was the one that cheated” Question: After many years of telling my husband I was unhappy I decided to start working on myself. He never made any effort to work on things with me he’d rather be on his computer. I started going to a support group and made a friend and we spent […]
When a couple begins their affair recovery journey with me, and I tell them that one of the keys to forgiveness is the development of empathy – I get some really strange looks. Some people will share with me that they have no intention of keeping their marriage – “….so why bother developing empathy for […]