Tip #1 for emotionally surviving the holidays: examine yourself Affair recovery is tough already. And then come the holidays. In Australia, it’s summer time, with hot weather, beach, family BBQs and outdoor fun in the sun. Everyone seams to be in a good mood – but you just can’t get festive. In the USA, there […]
Dr. Gunzburg talks about “Can This Marriage Be Saved?” in reference to the movie called Hope Springs. Hope Springs is about a couple that is on the verge of divorce at an intensive marriage retreat. And how they save their marriage. The Review Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones, Streep plays Kay who has […]
The divorce of one’s parents is difficult and emotionally distressing for children of all ages. A subsequent remarriage of either parent creates an additional adjustment. A father’s remarriage to a younger woman may be particularly stressful for his children. What are the issues that make this new union most troublesome to youngsters? Intact families provide […]
Feeling betrayed by a mate is profoundly devastating. Betrayal is usually associated with infidelity, but even in its absence, emotional betrayal creates great pain and deep marital discord. Knowing how to manage episodes of betrayal is essential to the stability and security of marital connection. In “The war of the Roses: An Interdependence Analysis of […]
While we as a society give “lip service” to monogamy, we contribute to some significant societal factors that actually support and encourage affairs. This is not to say that all the blame should be placed on society. That would be just as shortsighted as blaming only the particular people involved. But if we’re to understand and more effectively deal with this issue, it’s essential that we look at the social context within which affairs take place.
“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive.” ~Dalai Lama What a wonderful world it would be if people could generate a little more compassion for each other. The power of compassion is stronger than empathy because it is about imagining the suffering of others at a deeper level; consequently it […]
Repressing thoughts doesn’t work so here are 8 ways to get rid of negative thoughts. It’s one of the irritations of having a mind that sometimes it’s hard to get rid of negative thoughts. It could be a mistake at work, money worries or perhaps a nameless fear. Whatever the anxiety, fear or worry, it can prove very […]
The Tower of Remembrance Forgiveness Exercise As an infidelity recovery coach, one of my favorite tools to use with clients is the Tower of Remembrance exercise. Especially coming into summertime where the couple can go down to a lovely beach area, or river, and create a true experience together while releasing past hurts.It […]