First things first. The Infidelity Recovery Institute began as an educational resource for therapists and coaches to help individuals and couples move through relationship betrayal. Regardless of the social and political climate, cheating in a monogamous relationship is destructive to the betrayed partner. In the spirit of education and opening discussion, we explore this sensitive […]
This week, I’m going to discuss the topic of dating specifically dating when you have had a nasty relationship break up. Think of the worst thing that can happen to a committed monogamous relationship and that is infidelity. The process of working through the infidelity and finding yourself on the other side is arduous and […]
Once you have come clean about the affair, the general policy is “do ask, do tell.” Let your spouse decide what he or she wants to hear. Many people try to protect their spouse (and themselves) from the harsh realities by holding back hurtful details. Don’t do that. Once an affair has been revealed, the most important element in rebuilding a marriage is establishing trust. Trust is built on complete honesty.
Apologies are only part of the overall healing process following infidelity. But a good, thorough, heartfelt, empathic apology (repetitive if necessary) is a great place to start the reparation process.
There seems to exist a myth that seniors do not or should not have sex. Not only is this not true, but this view by society about sex contributes to seniors feeling it is unacceptable to be interested in and enjoy their sexuality. Though many people enjoy sex past their 70’s, many more would likely […]
The best infographic you will find on extramarital sex ever.
One of the most difficult decisions you’ll make post-affair—beyond whether or not to save your marriage—is whether or not to forgive your spouse. The choice is yours, and there’s no right or wrong. You’ll either want to grant forgiveness, or it will be something you can’t abide the thought of doing. Forgive or Not Forgive: […]
Cinema therapy is defined by Segen’s Medical Dictionary as: A form of therapy or self-help that uses movies, particularly videos, as therapeutic tools. Cinema therapy can be a catalyst for healing and growth for those who are open to learning how movies affect people and to watching certain films with conscious awareness. Cinema therapy allows […]
READ – The Marriage-Go-Round Amazon Link to After His Affair The following is a chapter excerpt from the new book, After His Affair Women Rising From The Ashes Of Infidelity, by Meryn Callander. The dark side of family life may be real, but, as Callander teaches, so are the many paths to healing. The Legacy of […]
Sharing your fetish or fantasy with a partner can be a positive (and persuasive) experience. You don’t have to keep quiet. Just get comfortable with what you want, to ask calmly and confidently. Make your partner feel special and unique to share your desires. Show them positive examples of others enjoying what you like. Align the request with their self-image.