Question from IRI Support Group Member ” My husband has been cheating with a neighbour for several years. He says that the affair stopped, that he was sorry for what he did, and that he wasn’t even attracted to the neighbour. He said the neighbour was flirting with him, and he just was in a […]
Falling back in love after experiencing infidelity can be a challenging journey, but with commitment and effort from both partners, it’s possible to rebuild trust and strengthen the relationship. The infidelity recovery Institute was one of the first counselling organisations to talk exclusively about infidelity and affair recovery. The difference between our programs and others […]
Menopause can have a variety of effects on relationships and marriages, largely due to the physical, emotional, and psychological changes that accompany this stage of life. Navigating menopause successfully often involves patience, empathy, and open dialogue. Couples who work through these changes together can often emerge with a stronger and more resilient relationship. Is your […]
First things first. The Infidelity Recovery Institute began as an educational resource for therapists and coaches to help individuals and couples move through relationship betrayal. Regardless of the social and political climate, cheating in a monogamous relationship is destructive to the betrayed partner. In the spirit of education and opening discussion, we explore this sensitive […]
This week, I’m going to discuss the topic of dating specifically dating when you have had a nasty relationship break up. Think of the worst thing that can happen to a committed monogamous relationship and that is infidelity. The process of working through the infidelity and finding yourself on the other side is arduous and […]
Once you have come clean about the affair, the general policy is “do ask, do tell.” Let your spouse decide what he or she wants to hear. Many people try to protect their spouse (and themselves) from the harsh realities by holding back hurtful details. Don’t do that. Once an affair has been revealed, the most important element in rebuilding a marriage is establishing trust. Trust is built on complete honesty.
Apologies are only part of the overall healing process following infidelity. But a good, thorough, heartfelt, empathic apology (repetitive if necessary) is a great place to start the reparation process.
There seems to exist a myth that seniors do not or should not have sex. Not only is this not true, but this view by society about sex contributes to seniors feeling it is unacceptable to be interested in and enjoy their sexuality. Though many people enjoy sex past their 70’s, many more would likely […]
The best infographic you will find on extramarital sex ever.
One of the most difficult decisions you’ll make post-affair—beyond whether or not to save your marriage—is whether or not to forgive your spouse. The choice is yours, and there’s no right or wrong. You’ll either want to grant forgiveness, or it will be something you can’t abide the thought of doing. Forgive or Not Forgive: […]