Author Archives: IRI

How to fall back in love after infidelity

Falling back in love after experiencing infidelity can be a challenging journey, but with commitment and effort from both partners, it’s possible to rebuild trust and strengthen the relationship. The infidelity recovery Institute was one of the first counselling organisations to talk exclusively about infidelity and affair recovery. The difference between our programs and others […]

The Menopause effect on relationships and marriages

An Athlete’s Guide to Menopause

Menopause can have a variety of effects on relationships and marriages, largely due to the physical, emotional, and psychological changes that accompany this stage of life. Navigating menopause successfully often involves patience, empathy, and open dialogue. Couples who work through these changes together can often emerge with a stronger and more resilient relationship. Is your […]

Married Straight Men who have Sex with Other Men

First things first. The Infidelity Recovery Institute began as an educational resource for therapists and coaches to help individuals and couples move through relationship betrayal. Regardless of the social and political climate, cheating in a monogamous relationship is destructive to the betrayed partner. In the spirit of education and opening discussion, we explore this sensitive […]

Dating After Betrayal

This week, I’m going to discuss the topic of dating specifically dating when you have had a nasty relationship break up. Think of the worst thing that can happen to a committed monogamous relationship and that is infidelity. The process of working through the infidelity and finding yourself on the other side is arduous and […]

Should You Tell Your Spouse You Cheated?

should I tell my spouse I cheated

Once you have come clean about the affair, the general policy is “do ask, do tell.” Let your spouse decide what he or she wants to hear. Many people try to protect their spouse (and themselves) from the harsh realities by holding back hurtful details. Don’t do that. Once an affair has been revealed, the most important element in rebuilding a marriage is establishing trust. Trust is built on complete honesty.

The 3 Barriers to Forgiveness after Cheating

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One of the most difficult decisions you’ll make post-affair—beyond whether or not to save your marriage—is whether or not to forgive your spouse. The choice is yours, and there’s no right or wrong. You’ll either want to grant forgiveness, or it will be something you can’t abide the thought of doing. Forgive or Not Forgive: […]

Movie Therapy for Couples

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Cinema therapy is defined by Segen’s Medical Dictionary as: A form of therapy or self-help that uses movies, particularly videos, as therapeutic tools. Cinema therapy can be a catalyst for healing and growth for those who are open to learning how movies affect people and to watching certain films with conscious awareness. Cinema therapy allows […]