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Book Review: How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair
Feb
How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair:
A Compact Manual for the Unfaithful
When an affair comes to light, oftentimes the wayward spouse realizes the error of their ways and they now want to save their relationships. Most of the time though, they make dreadful mistakes in their failed efforts to win back their wife or husband’s trust.
Ms. MacDonald has identified attitudes and actions which contribute to an unfaithful spouse’s failure or success to mend the marriage after the devastating affair.
How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair provides practical suggestion for people who have gone astray and wanting for a second chance. It also offers effective methods to help the couple bring their relationship back on track.
The book discusses the “15 Essential Steps for Repair” which helps you understand how to tell your spouse about your affair, how to deal with your spouse’s questions and concerns, and how to finally rebuild the trust in the marriage that has been broken. The book does a good job in a short amount of space helping you work through these steps so that you can rebuild a strong marriage.
Inside you’ll learn about:
- Fifteen essential steps to fix after betrayal
- Important guidelines to avoid the pot holes which doom relationships or marriage after betrayal
- Skills to deal with your partner’s obsessions
- Ways to release the pain from lies and betrayal
- The major differences between harmful and helpful apologies
- The important keys to keep from prolonging the agony for you and your spouse
- How to mend the broken marriage and integrity
While this counselor focuses on Christian means, she strays from the norm of making the wife the most responsible for the affair. She helps put the blame where it belongs, with the cheater and helps you, if you are the one who betrayed your spouse, overcome the affair in the best possible way for success.
The truth is, most times both spouses do share some blame, but only the spouse who committed the adultery can take blame for the ultimate betrayal and only that spouse can fully take the brunt of the blame in this situation as well as the one who will be required to make the most changes to make the marriage work.
It’s only when a spouse has accepted the job ahead and followed the steps in the book without question that healing occurs. If you’re looking for an excuse about your affair, this book will not provide it for you. If you are looking for a way to bring your marriage back to its former glory and maybe even better than before, then this book is for you. But be warned, the journey is not one for the person looking for excuses for their behavior or a way out.
If you are committed to your marriage, and stopping your affair, as well as rebuilding your marriage in a healthy way building up an arsenal of resources will help. This book is a good start.
From the Inside Flap
“Shortly after my wife and family found out about my year-long affair, Linda’s book, How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair, came to me like a lifeline at the most confusing and shocking time of my life. I wanted nothing more than to save my marriage, and there had been very little information directed toward me to help me do my part. I found that the book, surprisingly, answered all of the questions that I had. I read it daily for weeks and followed it with full trust and blind faith.
“Some of the steps were incredibly difficult to go through, but every time they proved effective. All I can say now is that the path that the book put me on was God’s path for me and the healing of my spouse. I am forever grateful for the insight that it has given me to climb out of the darkest days of my life into the greatest time of our marriage.”
—Greg (former client, name changed to protect his privacy)
“How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair” is available on Amazon in either Kindle, Paperback or Audio book.
