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Breakthrough the Upper Limit Barriers to Love
Dec
Reboot Your Relationship and Breakthrough the Upper Limit Barriers to Love!!
When you hit the wall with your relationship what do you do? Read on and then listen to the above link!!
If a couple wants to unlock their relationship potential, and really deepen over time, they need to clear the decks and get to zero. Zero means nothing is under the rug, no more hiding, and all resentments and withholds are aired and cleared. Otherwise, they spend time getting tripped up by all the baggage that never got finished. Once a couple can burn it all to the ground and get to zero, they can actually see each other. Oh, there you are! Here I am! Wow! But in order to do this, there has to be inspiration, hunger, longing, desire. Or maybe loads of pain?
In trying to make a big shift though, we might find that our early attachment wounds and relationship hurts keep us in a state of ambivalence, fear, or lack of desire. So, we stay stuck, complacently sweeping our pain under the rug. Or we might think we can’t get to a zero. We might think we don’t deserve it. We believe lies about our worth and lovability and we fail to see how beautiful we are so we “settle.” We might have no idea about what’s possible. Or we stay in our habitual fog and call it a zero. Patterns and justifications arise, no doubt. We all find ways, both conscious and unconscious to avoid loving ourselves and each other. It seems to be human nature. And to me, this is the exciting frontier of long-term partnership—where we can see it as a path, a journey, a wild ride back home to who we really are.
Joe Whitcomb, PsyDc, LMFT. Author, Psychotherapy and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Find Joe on Facebook. [/author_info] [/author]
