Eight Causes of Conflicts in the Home

It is inevitable to have conflicts in marriage, for the simple reason that we all have different customs, ideologies and come from different family background. There are no perfect relationships, however, conflicts in relationships can be reduced. 

There are many other factors responsible for conflicts in the home and to minimize the conflicts one must identify the causes.

In this article we shall look at some major causes of conflicts in the home.

Poor communication:

When there is lack of communication between couples it often results to misunderstandings. Constant criticism, complaints, blaming, sarcasm, result when the couples are unable to express themselves properly. Sometimes during conflicts, just a simple “I’m sorry” can solve it all. 

Constant absence of a spouse:

When a spouse is constantly away from home either for work or other purposes, the other spouse might not be comfortable with staying alone.

No doubt, they might decide to stay connected through phone calls and the internet but that can never be used to replace the closeness felt when they are together. There are many individuals who have filed for divorce because their spouse was always away. If for any reason a spouse has to stay far away from home, it should be mutually agreed upon. Also, the couple must always create time to meet up.

Jealousy and Insecurity

A jealous spouse is always going to create panic even when there isn’t any need for that. A mentally unstable partner would most likely express his feelings of fear, depression, insecurity, etc . through creating conflicts in the home.

Poor intimacy

When a lady starts feeling distant from her partner even while living in the same apartment, when the sexual intimacy has dropped and sex becomes a boring routine then one partner would start complaining.

Money problems:

This is one of the most common causes of conflicts in the home. “How much do we have? How much have you earned and what do you do with it?” Those are the common money related questions asked.

The real reason for financial stress is the feeling of lack. For example; If one of the couple grew up in poverty, he/she might be conditioned to think that there isn’t enough to spend extravagantly whereas the other spouse feels the money should be spent because more money would always come.

Such issues can result to quarrels in the home. Also, when the man isn’t able to meet up with his financial responsibilities, then the wife might turn into a nag.

Family/ friends interference:

Not everyone is willing to condole the interference of friends and family in their relationship. Seeking the opinions of outsiders in order to solve an issue in the marriage might make the other partner angry thereby resulting to a conflict in the home.

Problems with home duties:

Sometimes men get married and think that they have replaced their mothers with their wives. So, the wives are expected to pick up their clothes, wash them, prepare dinner for them and take care of the children.  If on the other hand, the woman isn’t ready to carry out all the domestic chores all by herself then it could result to a misunderstanding.

Infidelity:

This is one of the major causes of conflicts in the home. Chatting and hanging out with strangers or even an ex can result to a burning flame in the home. So, if you need peace and tranquility in the home, it would be best to remain faithful. 

How do you deal with conflicts?

To deal with conflicts one would have to identify the causes. Some conflicts usually arise from a problem or a personal need not solved. On a personal level one must identify their behavioral issues that might be responsible for the conflicts.

For example, if you are hot tempered and jealous you must be willing to work on yourself.  Also, old relationships that interfere in your marriage should be placed on check.

Conflicts caused by a lack of communication should be solved together. The couple must be willing to express themselves truly to one another without fear nor hostility. A good communication results to an increased intimacy.

Each couple has the resources to solve the problems that arise in the relationship, however, when one partner is unwilling to resolve these issues everything becomes difficult to handle.