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Female Infidelity: I cheated on my husband and I have no regret
Jul
In the olden days our parents had trained the girl child to be obedient, respectful, homely and faithful. Such training actually helped them in building their homes but unfortunately, in this age, the story is different.
Have you ever wondered why the rate of unfaithful women is increasing daily? Well, I would say that factors like education, exposure, family background and societal influence have contributed to the increase in female infidelity. Nowadays, most women cheat and a good number of them have no regrets about it. Below are some infidelity stories from women.
Magali, 55
“I’m married, I have three children, and a lover, who has a wife and three children. I always knew that I was playing with fire because my lover is the husband of one my girlfriends. The first time we kissed, I realized that I had strong desires for him but we decided not to take it to the next level. Our families are close and I know how disappointed my kids would be if they found out.
After a while we just couldn’t hold back anymore despite our fears and we started having sex secretly. I finally admitted that I love this man and the feelings I had for my husband had died. Although, we haven’t been caught but I sometimes feel guilty about having feelings for another man. I wish I could tell my family about what I feel but my husband seems to trust me a lot and my kids love and respect me too. Then there is my girlfriend, how would she feel about it? Well, I have decided to continue this way because I can’t let go of my lover because spending time with him makes me feel so good.
Lisa, 28
“My husband and I have been married for four years and it turned out that he was an alcoholic. He was always on drinking spree and on many occasions, he fell by the road side due to drunkenness. Although, he was more of a disappointment to me, I still loved him. After some time, he finally decided to go for rehabilitation and while he was there I was taking care of him. At no time did I stop loving him, but the reality is that I felt like a 28-year-old girl in a relationship equivalent to that of an 80-year-old couple.
I felt lonely and at that time my ex-boyfriend had returned to the city. We agreed to meet up for a dinner and after the catch up, the unexpected happened and we had sex. When I left his apartment, strangely I did not feel guilty about it. I needed to feel close to a person and have good sex, and my partner could not give me that. After that incident I acted like nothing had happened because I still did love my spouse. After his treatment, he was discharged and he became normal. We continued our relationship and of course my spouse never got to know that I cheated on him.”
Karina, 50
“I liked Mark as soon as I met him. I was 19 years old and really wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. But if I may ask, is it possible to spend a lifetime only with someone? Although I loved him, I also loved adventure and exploring my sexuality. I didn’t see why one person would deprive me of having pleasure with others.
We got married and everything was simple and easy going. We had three children, a family life, friends, projects and we bought a house. Being married I decided to ignore the men that tried flirting with me. I was being a faithful wife not until I met Gilles.
I was in my thirties then. We became friends and had strong attraction towards each other. We resisted these emotions for three or four years, then when we couldn’t hold it back anymore, we gave in. Gilles was also married and our spouses and children knew each other but we still decided to share an intimate relationship.
We had travelled to different cities where we spent time together in hotels. Aside from the fear of getting caught, I don’t feel guilty about this relationship. Mark was often absent due to his work, and I am not that kind of wife who would wait for long days just to have her husband’s presence at home. Besides, each time he returned from his work he was always exhausted. He doesn’t care about my emotional needs so I don’t feel guilty about having an affair with Gilles.”
Marriage wasn’t designed to be some game zone but unfortunately, that’s what we see today. One lady said to me;
“Cheating on my spouse is not a crime as long as it makes me feel good. Whenever I get attracted to a new guy, I explore and enjoy the affair while it last. I also try never to get caught because I wouldn’t want to ruin my kids love and respect for me. As for my husband, I know he cheats too so let the cycle continue.”
There are different reasons why women cheat and if these reasons are worked on then, the rate of female infidelity would be reduced.
Wow! So many hurt people. Just have some integrity and get away from your mate rather than cheat. Both women and men appear to have an infinite capacity to be selfish, but women seem to be unique in their twisted motivation to heap pain and injury on their male partners/husbands.
That’s because society and the family court system via No Fault Divorce doesn’t hold them accountable for anything. If the consequences and price tag of cheating and other bad behaviors was harsh and enforced then we would not have these problems. Right now a woman in the US can be the worst wife and mother in the entire country and nobody holds her accountable and the family court system still rewards her with custody, cash and prizes. They have an incentive to divorce and cheating is a great way to blow up a marriage to get those cash and prizes. Why? Because these women know that any man with an ounce of self respect will not want to be married to a woman that he can no longer trust. Accountability is a woman’s Kryptonite. These women are playing a game and gaming men and the system. What kind of sadistic system do we have that rewards bad behavior and punishes the innocent spouse?
There is no recovering from being cheated on. The trust is broken and gone. If you forgive the cheater you will always be suspicious, always be on the lookout. People that cheat are broken and selfish people. They don’t love their spouse or their children, only themselves. Some women cheat to be spiteful towards their husbands.To “hurt him” secretly. The cheater gets some sick thrill out of doing this “secret hurting” of their spouse. My ex wife actually said one time when the topic of cheating came up “That’s the only way I can hurt you”. What a very sick minded woman. I am so very happy that she is out of my life. If your spouse cheats, divorce them and move on and remember cheating was their choice no matter what was going on in the marriage and that it’s no reflection on you, they are the ones that failed. Personality disorders such as narcissism, borderline personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder, oppositional defiant disorder, anti social personality disorder, sociopaths, psychopaths, and cluster b personality disorder. If you get involved with one of these RUN, get out of there, it will only end badly.
I believe that women that cheat have a false sense that their emotions are not being fulfilled by their SO. But the reality is they themselves are not fulfilling their own needs both emotionally, and physically. These women have no idea how to accomplish this and expect their SO to do it for them. when this does not happen they look elsewhere. Then when it does not happen with the AP, they move on to the next affair. They use the excuse of lack of communication with their SO. To justify their actions. But the truth is these women don’t even know how to communicate with themselves. Let alone how to tell their SO what the relationship is lacking. Another thing that I have a hard time with is. They say that with women its an emotional connection, and with men its a physical connection. So when a woman cheats, and has sex with another guy. Why would the woman say to their SO it was physical just sex it meant nothing when this is what a man uses for his conection to a woman?
The last sentence/question in your post, They say it was only physical in an attempt to get their husband to forgive them or to relate to what she did. It wont work though. I have read articles about how destructive it is for one spouse to expect the other to be the sole source of all their happiness, all their joy, all their excitement, everything. How exhausting that must be. My ex-wife use to say thing like “You are suppose to just know what I need and what I am feeling” My reply to that was NO that’s called communication that’s why you have a mouth and speech, be an adult and communicate like one. Then one night at dinner I acted upset because she cooked meatloaf. She said “what’s the matter you don’t like it” then I said “I really wanted chicken tonight” she replied “How was I supposed to know?” Then I said “You are suppose to just know what I want and how I am feeling remember?” Then I said “See how absurd that expectation is now?”
Don’t get married. If you do then get a prenup, so if she disrespects you in this way, you can walk without looking back.
Don’t let love make you put yourself last. That’s stupid.
I agree. Don’t get married or live together, EVER. It’s a trap and the man is the one who generally ends up paying excessively.
Mostly all the wife are not honestly , unfaithful ,cheated and never took a promisses, betryaled the swaring vow during their marriage ceremony before are meaningless for them. No dignity and no respect to the thrutful relationship . In that cese why need go for married. Better just be FWB just to fulfill your important matter that is your desire only . Very hypocrete and selfish and didnt care their spouse,children and family feeling . Dont forget the karma / punishment can be happened at any time when you are dealing with this kind of cheating activities cause you are dealing with big mistake and big sin.
Our society and Disney movies provide unrealistic expectations about marriage. Most women want a traditional husband only feminism has taught them that they don’t have to be a traditional wife, and they don’t want to be either. I think that women are the ones that benefit from marriage and then the inevitable divorce. Men are the ones that pay heavily. When I divorced the judge wanted to give my ex-wife alimony even though she was making more money per hour than I was making at the time. The divorce laws and family court need to change. No fault divorce is a scam. This means that cupcake can cheat, lie, steal, do anything she wants and she will not be held accountable in divorce court. No fault divorce means that either spouse can hire a lawyer and file for divorce under no fault divorce / irreconcilable differences. Very fast, a divorce can be done in 6 months. My opinion is if they cheat then they are out, divorce them and don’t look back.
There are really women who would cheat to get revenge from their cheating partners. But that doesn’t solve anything at all. In the end , both of them will get hurt including their children.
You are selfish. You think it is not wrong because you only care about yourselves. You do not love your spouse or your friend or your children. You are just concerned for yourselves. You are not good people.
Youre all sick, doesn’t respect and loyalty mean anything to anyone anymore! I am and have always been a faithful partner to my wife and former girlfriends. I have never cheated nor have I even dated two woman at the same time. How any married person can think for a second thatnits ok to step out on their partner is beyond me. I can’t fathom how someone could do such a terrible thing. The situation you found yourselves in is meaningless, you made a vow, a promise to someone; you signed a legal document, swearing to be faithful, and you follow it up by cheating. Cheating jut just on your spouses but on your children and families too. You should all be ashamed, each and every one of you, it’s just shameful. I feel bad for you, for your spouses, and most of all your children. And what do you think you’re teaching them? All you are doing is showing them that honesty, loyalty, the sacred vow and bond of marriage is dead and meaningless. You’ve shown them that nothing is sacred in the world, and that they should cheat, lie and steal to get ahead. You’re all great people, good jobs.
Totally agree. So sad.
I agree with you 100%. Our society is very sick. You have both men and women out there behaving badly. Social media is a cancer upon our society. Smart phones and dating apps are corrupting people. There really is no loyalty anymore. I know a lot of men, good men, hard working men that had their wife cheat on them while they were at work. Then the woman blames her husband because “he was always gone, he worked too much”. Yeah he worked that way to provide for his family and in some cases to provide for her insatiable desire for shopping sprees and pointless home improvements. It seems that a lot of women lack accountability and taking ownership of their wrong doing. The blame simply gets shifted onto the man. The Rockefeller’s funded 3rd wave feminism to “destroy the family”. They know the fastest way to take a man down and destroy a family is through brainwashing women into thinking being a wife and mother is somehow “oppressive”. They were and still are very successful in their goal of destroying the family. If you want proof of how sick society is just go watch some TikTok videos where these young women are making cringe videos, bashing men, putting their wants, desires, and demands from men on video. The bigger question is what do they offer the man that will improve his life and make it worth having her around? In most cases these women are a ticking time bomb and if a man commits to them he will get put through the wringer of toxicity, cheated on, gaslighted, nagged and then divorced, ruing his life and finances. The real shame of it all is that the children are the ones that suffer the most for the poor choices of their parents. Don’t get married, Don’t live together, Don’t offer them any commitment whatsoever. When you do this you will have your female relatives use “shaming language”, coercion, and guilt trips to attempt to get you to make bad choices. A man in his 40s and above what’s he supposed to do? Wife up a single mother that made bad choices and support her and her children from other men?? NO THANKS, those women made their bad choices and now they get to live with them, On their own. If a good man wifes them up they will soon regret it once they discover that they are the last priority and that they are being used as a human ATM machine, most likely getting cheated on while he works to provide for her and her kids from other men. Men Just say NO to marriage, NO to single mothers, NO to promiscuous women, NO to hookup culture. Focus on yourself, your goals, your dreams, your future. Do NOT waste your precious time and resources on an untrustworthy woman that does not have your best interest in mind. Men need to be careful because a lot of these women are very good actresses, acting like they love you, acting like they care about you and the children, meanwhile she only cares about herself and nothing more. To be fair there are some bad men out there too playing games with honest women. People need to choose better. If you see the red flags of bad behaviors, RUN.