Married women having affairs with other women

What do you think?

Today I received an email from a husband who was looking for support. He had just discovered that his wife was in fact a lesbian. While our infidelity recovery institute website talks about men coming out as gay after years of marriage to a woman, we had not discussed women having affairs with other women.

He writes:

Dear IRI

I found your article about wives discovering that their husbands are gay, but I was looking for any information for men who find that their wives are lesbian.

Do you have any materials or resources about that? I might have missed it.

Is your site focused specifically on men who cheat, but not women who cheat? If that’s not your area, and I’m looking in the wrong place, if you know of any resources, I would appreciate it.

Thank you!

B

If you have advice for B, please share in the comments section below.

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Responses from our IRI Affair Recovery Group…..

[box] Jennifer  – I would say this The end of a relationship is a loss, regardless of how it happened. A loss of hope and dreams for the future. Unlike death, this type of loss leaves us with many questions that you will drive yourself crazy trying to answer. So grieve, process and grieve some more. Try to find a local group that is a safe space to share and find healing. You were still betrayed, your heart is still broken, you likely question yourself. Chin up!! You are enough. Focus on you, celebrating the greatness inside you and give yourself time to process and grieve and heal.[/box]