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My mum slept with my boyfriend, what should I do?
Sep
“My name is Samantha and I am the only child of my mother. She had me when she was 16 years old and my biological father had refused to take up responsibility so she had to face motherhood alone. I grew up knowing just her and she meant everything to me. Growing up I discovered that mum wasn’t really behaving like any other responsible parent does. When I was 14 she encouraged me to have a boyfriend and was telling me about sex and all that. She loves partying and encourages me to attend parties and make as many friends as I can. She even asked me to bring my friends home.
She loves dressing up like a young adult and there were times she introduced me as her younger sister. She listens to my music and even wants to accompany me to my parties so she could meet my friends. Although, she might be the kind of mum some young people would wish for but I am ashamed to have a mum who has no qualms about letting me drink or smoke. She has never corrected me for my wrong doings.
It turned out that I am dating 22 years old Robinson who is already in the university. We have already dated for four months but I refused to have sex with him because I’m still a virgin. Although, my mom encourages me to have sex but I am afraid because I do not want to end up as a single mother.
Rob is bigger than me and I’m sure he has a lot of experience but since I didn’t have sex with him, I guess he got frustrated and decided to cheat on me with my mum. On that very day, when I returned from school, the living room was quiet but I could hear sounds coming out from my mum’s room. Well, I wasn’t concerned because I felt it was probably one of her boyfriends. When I looked around the living room, I saw my boyfriend’s school bag on the couch. That made me suspicious. So I tiptoed to my mum’s room and I made a peek through the key hole. Guess what I saw? I saw my mum banging on my boyfriend.
I quickly rushed out to cry. I stayed outside for a while before entering the house again. This time I saw them in the living room and guess what Rob told me? He said he had just arrived at my place to see me. I asked him why he didn’t call me on phone to tell me he was coming and he said he wanted to give me a surprise.
That day I told Rob that I was very tired and would see him some other day so he left. It’s been days now and I have not said anything to anyone. I only decided to write to you so you would help me out on what to do.”
I wouldn’t let it get the best of you. I’m making a plan to get away from her forever
I’m sorry you’re also going through this, I can’t believe how many people have gone through this. I have a feeling the dam thing has happened to me with two of my exes possibly even more . Me and my mom haven t gotten along for years and I would find drugs in my room and then she would blame me for things I didn’t have or did. My exes would be on her side and be showing up to my house without me there.
Im only 16 and my mom has been hitting. (Shes 43) to my boyfriend she was to have fun with him. My boyfriend is disgusted and wants nothing to do with her. Yet she still makes comments like saying that they have “long sweet conversations well im asleep” or that he calls her in the morning. I dont know what to do😬
I feel i I was taken from my mom at a young age im 29 now mu boyfriend is 46 an my mom is 56 my boy friend and i keep fighting an right in my face i an see an hear him talk to my mom about sex and other personal problems i can feel it i know he wants my mom if he hasn’t already gotten her i never really had my mom anyway an now i believe she blowing my bf i dont want to touch him ever again an i want to leave so i know how u feel imma write both of them off im done if he hurts her i physically it will be her own fault. Their both shitty people move on thats Wat i would do
Run, Lola, ruuuuuuuuuuun!
Im sorry you experienced this, its not your fault. We can’t choose how and who were born to, but we can shape our own future, concentrait on you, focus on your goals and talk to people about this other than your mother and hopefully ex-boyfriend. Possibly teachers or counslors.