I got talking with some male folks and from our conversation, I learnt that there’s nothing that hurts as much as having an unfaithful wife. It even hurts more when the man loves the wife so much. Most of these men would care less about the number of mistresses they keep outside their marriage but the discovery of their partner’s lover can leave them devastated.
I also discovered another set of men who would care less about their spouse’s infidelity. And from my questioning, I noticed that this set of men most often do not love their spouse and probably also have their lovers who they are more concerned about.
Whatever might be the case, the discovery of an infidelity in marriage would always have a negative effect on the marital bond and if not handled properly, it could lead to the end of the relationship. Below are some experiences shared by men who caught their wives cheating with another man.
Jackson, 34
“I had the suspicion that my wife was being unfaithful because whenever we were together she often received calls and text messages from people I didn’t know. Each time such calls came, she would either ignore the call or she would go to another room before picking it up.
One day I returned home and she wasn’t at home. I called her and she wasn’t picking up so I had to wait for her to return. She got back at around 11pm in the night. When I asked her where she came from, she said she had gone to the hospital to see her friend who had an accident. Initially, I did believe her but while she slept I was tempted to check her phone.
From her phone, I discovered that she had actually gone to a hotel with another man to have sex. From their chats, I saw they had planned to meet on another day. I copied the place and time and on that day I went there and from afar I saw how my wife kissed and hugged this man as they walked together into the hotel. On that day, for the first time, I felt my world had crashed.
Philip, 35
“I wouldn’t say I have been a faithful husband because I cheated twice after I got married to Sophie and she never found out about it. I also had STDs which I infected my wife with and when I found out, we went for treatment. After the treatment, I decided to have sex just with my spouse.
A year after that incident, I noticed that I was having itching and went to run a test. Then I found out that I had contracted two different STDs in less than a year. I was confused because I knew I wasn’t sleeping around with strangers. So how did it happen? I needed to find out.
On that day I took a leave at work and went home. I found my kids at home with the baby sitter but my wife wasn’t back from work. I had returned earlier. So I decided to go and pick her up. On getting to her working place, she wasn’t there but her car was parked in the premises. While I was driving back home, on the opposite lane, I saw my best friend’s car. Jeff was driving and seated with him was my wife. They were talking and laughing. I assumed that he was probably giving her a ride home but when their car diverted to a different direction, I was tempted to follow them. They finally drove into a hotel in that area and from afar I watched as they booked a room and went inside. After a while, I went and knocked on the door and when Jeff opened the door, he was half naked.
I needed no further explanation as to why I had contracted two different STDs even while I was being a faithful spouse. Later that day, she returned and begged for forgiveness. Although, I forgave her but the truth is that our marriage has never been the same.”