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Picking Up The Pieces After Infidelity
Sep
It’s very difficult for someone to be betrayed by another person they’ve trusted the most. The easiest thing to do is to break down and cry when your spouse finds love somewhere else.
However, it is always up to you how you’ll handle yourself in this difficult situation. You can choose to file a divorce or you can stop and think on what happened and strive hard to find a win-win solution.
If you want to move forward and win against infidelity, the best thing to do is to pull yourself together and take control of your emotions. Allow yourself to hurt but not to the point of being irrational.
Based on our studies, most cases of infidelity often lead to separation or divorce. Many couples choose to end their marriage instead of rebuilding their trust with one another. Of course, a little amount of space is needed to give oneself a breather but any decision that emanates from hurt and anger will not always be the best for all.
Finding out about your partner’s infidelity is a very painful experience. It’s as if your heart was ripped off your chest. One can be so overwhelmed with emotions that they end up confused.
However, it’s vital to always look at the big picture. There is always a reason for any action. Finding out what cause the affair and where you want to go from there is a big decision that you and your spouse should talk about.
Perhaps you just didn’t notice that your marriage already have problems which led to your spouse looking someplace else just to fulfill his or her needs. Although it might be very difficult, but a great amount of understanding is needed in order to combat the hurt caused by infidelity.
Rather than screaming, shouting and blaming your partner, you should always keep in mind that being tactful is essential. Always think before you speak. If you need to vent, find a mature person you can talk to.
He or she can listen to you and help you make the load a bit lighter. Letting go, acceptance and forgiveness are the three things you can do in order to win against infidelity and rebuild your marriage in the process.
If you are the unfaithful spouse, you should be ready to do everything in order to regain the broken trust. Cut your ties with the other party and be sincere and honest with your partner. Do whatever it takes to regain your spouse’s love, respect, and trust.
Work with your spouse to make yourselves whole again. As it is, any relationship composed of broken people will eventually lose meaning and fall apart. It is also important not to rely on your spouse for happiness.
Regain your individuality and you’ll surely be a better person. Find out what’s wrong with your relationship and work on it. Focus on healing even if you need to separate temporarily with your spouse. There is no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to winning against infidelity but with patience, maturity and forgiveness, you’ll be able to live a happy life despite what happened.
[author] [author_image timthumb=’on’]https://infidelityrecoveryinstitute.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/andrew-marriage-help.jpg[/author_image] [author_info]Author & Relationship Expert. Andrew is co-founder of Save My Marriage, and provides a FREE Mini-Course to help marriages stay together through good and tougher times.[/author_info] [/author]
