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Sean asks for advice: Is kissing a forgivable situation?
Aug
Do you have some advice for Sean?
Long one here bear with me..
Me and girlfriend have been together for nearly 8 years. We started going out when I was 20 and she was 16. It’s been a great relationship for the most part and we have been living together for 2 years now.
About 3 years she had attempted to go on a break from me. She was only 20 at the time and felt she needed space alone as we had been together since she was very young. I could barely cope and broke down and she decided to stay based of my reaction. A similar situation happened a few weeks later.
A few months after this I came with the ridiculous plan to try and get engaged. I basically thought by doing this I would somehow protect the relationship and save it. She realised what I was doing on holiday and in a nice way told me how she wasn’t ready for something like that (obviously after wanting a break a few months earlier!). The Summer came then and 4 months later we were getting on well and we moved in together. Since then things have been great and she openly talks about how she wants to spend the rest of our lives together and its definitely what I would like too in a couple of years.
Now for the **** part. A friend told me 2 and a half years ago that he heard my GF had been seen kissing a couple of guys at different times in the town we are from (small town mentality kind of place). That night I confronted her about it and she broke down and admitted the truth. At the time when she wanted to go on a break she had kissed a couple of guys while drunk. After the proposal attempt it happened 3 more times that Summer. Her head was justifiably all over the place at the time and she obviously needed to be on her own then but I was so angry. She had decided before we moved in together that she was happy to spend her life with me and left those drunken mistakes behind her. She hadn’t told me what had happened when it did as she had seen how I had reacted to going on a break before and couldn’t do it to me.
She is an amazing person she really is and if I had given her space I don’t think any of this would be an issue, but I struggle so much even all these years later thinking about it or ruminating on it.
No relationships really make it from the ages we started going out (especially in her case) and she deservedly needed space at the age she was, so why am I struggling so much here.
Do people agree it’s an extremely forgivable situation ? Thanks for any advice I really appreciate it.
What do you think? What advice could you give Sean about his girlfriend? Comment below.
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I do not normally interfere in others lives however I am submitting this on behalf of a good friend of mine. I am worried he is making a huge mistake and needs help. His name is Carlton. He got involved in an affair and left his wife, Charlotte for another woman. This news has been hard on the few people that know of the affair and him leaving. Carlton and Charlotte were so well suited for each other. Charlotte adored Carlton and I thought Carlton loved Charlotte as well. Several of us have spoken about this. Carlton has moved in with his girlfriend. We feel Carlton got wrapped up in the affair and did not truly want to leave Charlotte. Carlton’s best friend is the sister to the woman he left Charlotte for. Can these two wonderful people, Carlton and Charlotte be helped? This breaks my heart. Carlton will face such embarrassment for what he has done. His daughter and granddaughters will face embarrassment and humiliation.
Some of Carlton’s friends will not appreciate him after this all becomes common knowledge. Charlotte will not say anything at this point regarding Carlton, she will and does not speak I’ll of him. Can their marriage be saved? Please help them. I have included Carlton’s email for him to receive help. Thank you. I love this couple, I know they can get through this. And I know Carlton does not want to face the public humiliation of his actions. I know, we know he still loves Charlotte. How can I help my friend and stop him from losing everything? How can we help Carlton to remember his love for Charlotte and return to her? How can we help Carlton to see this affair is wrong and moving him away from his soulmate? Concerned friend.