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Survey results: The #1 person your spouse will cheat on you with is “A FRIEND”
Dec
Did you know that your friend has a 55% chance of having an affair with your own spouse? It is true. The survey results are in!
A recent British survey conducted by YouGov UK for The Sun newspaper found that one in five British adults admit to having an affair, while a third of adults admitted to thinking about having an affair. Furthermore, there’s a difference between who men and women have affairs with.
Most studies show that between 1 in 5 and 1 in 4 married people will admit to having engaged in sexual infidelity, says Justin Lehmiller, a Purdue University psychologist who studies sex and relationships and is the author of “The Psychology of Human Sexuality.” Yet experts say almost everyone has thought about cheating on a spouse at one time or another, whether it’s fantasizing about a date a Hollywood hunk, or flirting with a colleague with a “hottie from the office.”
Have you ever wondered if you’re in danger of being unfaithful? The experts advise you to look at these risk categories. People who engage in infidelity typically fall into more than one.
Top Findings: Who do people cheat with?
Most men admitted to cheating with co-workers, while women were more likely to cheat with a close friend.
Women have their affairs with:
- “friends” (55%)
- work colleagues (32%).
Men have their affairs with:
- work colleagues (45%)
- “friends” (32%)
- Strangers (28%)
Infidelity recovery specialist and clinical psychologist, Dr. Savannah Ellis, says:
“Many couples make the mistake of sharing personal relationship information with friends. “Couples should work out their personal issues inside the relationship, or with a neutral third party. Friends should not know the weaknesses of the relationship, as this allows the friend to talk about emotionally vulnerable issues and problems and become emotionally close to one person. A couple needs to learn how to sort out their issues within the relationship, without turning to external health from friends for emotional support.”
Wife Cheating
The survey shows women having a much higher probability of cheating with a friend. The friend could be a friend of the wife, or a friend of the relationship. Worst of all, and in many cases, it is the husbands best friend. “When I see this couple in the clinic, the cheating wife will turn to the betrayed husband, and tell him how his friend was always their to listen to her….and he (the husband) was never around. The sad part of this scenario, is the husband is normally at work, supporting the families income and lifestyle,” says Dr. Ellis.
According to the same poll, women have their affairs almost equally because they felt flattered by the attention and because they felt emotionally disconnected in their marriage!
See article to explain why women commonly cheat in their first year of marriage. “The Seven Month Itch“
Husband Cheating
Men have their affairs pretty equally for three reasons:
- flattered by the attention,
- emotionally disconnected in their marriage,
- dissatisfied with their sex life in their marriage.
Men would be more likely to develop relationships with people they work with just because they spend so much time with those people each and every day. Research shows this is a major risk factor.
Dr. Shirley Glass, author of the book, Not ‘Just Friends’ wrote,
“The new infidelity is between people who unwittingly form deep, passionate connections before realizing that they’ve crossed the line from platonic friendship into romantic love. Eighty-two percent of the 210 unfaithful partners I’ve treated have had an affair with someone who was, at first, ‘just a friend.’ Today’s workplace has become the new danger zone of romantic attraction and opportunity.”
Yet many people who are unhappy in their relationship don’t cheat, experts caution, and many who do cheat have other risk factors as well. What can we learn about infidelity from this poll?
Source: https://yougov.co.uk/news/2015/05/27/one-five-british-adults-admit-affair/
