Marriage and relationships often bring two persons with different background and personality to live and interact together. Due to individual differences, misunderstandings and problems become inevitable amongst couple. A happy couple is not the one without problems but one who knows how to adapt and face the problems each time they come.
In my recent book, Reboot Your Relationship: Restoring Love in a Disconnected World, I talk about what is called the Relationship Dance. The needs of ‘I’ bump against the needs of ‘We’ in an intricate dance. We fight for connection, for closeness, but we also seek to protect our hearts from being broken and our uniqueness […]
Nearly every person I have worked with has the same relationship issue. Trying to change their partner. In my experience trying to change our partner is one of the top three relationship issues out there (unhealthy co-dependency and bad boundaries are the other two). For example, years ago when I was dating around, once the […]
Our “WE” is broken Your “We” has two “I’s” within it, the foundation of the “We”, so it makes sense to first fix the foundation that supports the relationship. To help any couple visualize what they need to work on, we draw a nest of triangles. Each triangle within this figure represents one of […]
As a Marriage and Family Therapist and Psychotherapist I’ve spent the majority of my life (over two decades) working with hundreds of couples and thousands individuals experiencing individual and marital problems (such as affairs). I challenge you to get in a quiet place and ask yourself a few hard and tough questions that will affect […]
There are some things in life that can be difficult but beautiful, like raising a child. The joys certainly outweigh the challenges in most cases, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. Chasing a dream or a goal is another example. Sometimes a person may feel like quitting, but if he keeps fighting, he may get […]
The reason why weekly coaching with The Infidelity Recovery Program is imperative, is to support you as a mirror, guide on the side and thought partner on your setbacks and sustain and retain you through your growing edge, process, and progress. Just as a physical trainer will do to push you and challenge you to […]
This time of year, with gray skies clouding our days and temperatures keeping us indoors (in many places), it is not surprising that many report feeling blue. In fact, depression with a seasonal pattern has long been recognized as affecting many during the winter months. This pattern had for many years been known as seasonal affective […]