Sometimes called: The “Sexist” Player, Womanizer, or Casanova   AFFAIR TYPE OVERVIEW There is no emotional attachment to the affair partners – they are conquests. Require a steady change of sexual partners. Only then can they “commit to one partner”/wife Obsessed with gender – not gender equity Sexist attitudes – “women exist to serve men” […]

Lesson: The treatment of exit affairs. AKA: Out The Door Affair “Finally it’s my turn” Exiters are Conflict Avoiders at heart, but they take it further. One spouse has already decided to leave the marriage and the affair provides the justification. The other partner usually blames the affair rather than looking at how their marriage […]

AKA: The “Sex Addict” Introduction It can be quite confronting when you discover the gravity of the infidelity for the Type 7 Sexual Addiction Affair. Cheating once or twice is one thing, but cheating hundreds of times! How can any couple survive such a gross betrayal? The sexual addiction affair type, if it truly is […]

TYPE 5: SPLIT-­‐SELF AFFAIRS Vulnerability comes from need for affection & attention The focus has not been on the marriage but the happiness and needs of the family. The marriage typically revolved around the children “The Great Family Man” “The Perfect Mother” Little if any attention to marriage enrichment Cheater will break up with the […]

Lesson: The Two Types of Avoidance Affairs: Intimacy Avoidance Conflict Avoidance INTIMACY AVOIDANCE FEATURES:   Intimacy Avoiders are frightened of getting too close, so they keep the barriers high between them. Conflict is one barrier, affairs are another. Their emotional connection with each other is through frequent and intense conflict. Often, each spouse becomes involved […]

Lesson: The One Night Stand   “I wont hurt anyone”, “just this once”, “it’s not who I am”   About The one night stand   An accidental affair is not always a one night stand (ONS), though many ONSs are accidental in the way they take place. What I mean by accidental is that there […]