The idea of quality time sounds simple enough, but it’s surprising how very few couples actually spend quality time together. In a survey I read a few years ago, it said that the average couple spends less than four minutes in communication with each other on a daily basis. That communication is generally functional such […]
What makes a person monogamous? What will prevent a person from cheating? Why do some people cheating and others do not? The quality and depth of your relationship is a combination of your Intimacy, Friendship, & Beliefs. Our current research supports that of other Attachment theorists, who have found it is the individuals Attachment Style […]
Lesson: Learn why one individual bonds to another Common coping styles and patterns Effect of trauma on one’s ability to attach Attachment Style “You don’t really understand human nature unless you know why a child on a merry-go-round will wave at his parents every time around – and why his parents will always wave back.” […]
Lesson: Teach listening and speaking skills to the couple Introduce a easy model to help the traumatised couple implement positive communication skills quickly Many couples will state they didn’t have a problem with communication prior to the infidelity. Even the conflict avoidant faithful partner may say “we didn’t have any problems in this area before […]
Can the betrayed partner recover from relationship betrayal without transparency? This concept is not always well received and for certain reasons. People have their secrets, and people want to keep their secrets. In Step 1 Commitment, we discuss the concept of transparency with the couple. Some betrayed spouses will state that they do not expect […]
Why Monologues? In this course, it is strongly recommended your clients begin the monologue exercise from the start of the program. Basically, monologues are a listening exercise where one person can speak for 20 minutes without being interrupted in any way. Think about how couples normally communicate during this time – contempt, criticism, judgment, stonewalling, […]
Lesson: How to “re-learn” each other’s emotional needs Helping the couple discover their emotional needs: Marriage builders Prepare Enrich Our primary goal in helping couples recover after an affair is for them to establish a romantic relationship. Naturally this will look different for every couple and so we take this opportunity to discuss both what […]