Negative Ways of Responding to a Partner’s Infidelity

When a person is in love, the brain responds by secreting hormones that produce feelings of pleasure, obsession, and attachment. These feelings are usually addictive. That’s why it is usually difficult for persons in love to quietly handle rejection, betrayal and infidelity from their partner. Just as the brain responds to love, it does respond to infidelity by releasing hormones that activate pain receptors thereby making the victim go through emotional pain which could also lead to a physical pain.

The pain from a heartbreak is usually intense when fresh but gradually fades with time. We all respond differently after being cheated on. Some heartbroken persons react by crying bitterly before letting go of the pain while others react by inflicting injuries on either themselves or on their cheating partner.

Everyday, we hear stories of people who reacted to their partner’s infidelity by fighting, killing or committing suicide. Such attitudes are non commendable because of the grave consequences. In today’s article, we would be reading through some negative ways some individuals responded to their partner’s infidelity.

I recently saw a picture of a man on my news feed; he was admitted to a hospital because his wife had bathed him with undiluted acid which completely burnt his body. According to an eyewitness, when the husband returned home that night, she had accused him of patronizing prostitutes, this led to a fight during which she poured him the acid she had kept.

In a similar incident, a lady suspected her husband was cheating but when she asked him, he denied. So she warned him not to try it because she wasn’t ready to forgive him as usual. One day, she got a call from an anonymous caller who said her husband was in a hotel with a lady. She went there and actually saw them but they didn’t see her. When she got home, she was feeling so pained as she remembered all her futile efforts to make her marriage work. Instead of the love and respect she deserved she felt her husband had used and abused her. The next thought that came to her mind was retaliation and guess what she did to him? She cut off his penis. What!! How did she do that?

While waiting for her cheating husband to return from his date with his mistress, she decorated their room with roses, made his favorite meal then dressed seductively. When he finally came home she asked him why he returned late and he lied that he was stuck up in traffic. Although she knew he was lying, she didn’t say anything. She gave him his dinner after which they had good sex. Unknowing to the man, she had  drugged him so while he slept she used a knife to cut off his penis. It was a gory incident.

I read a case study of Lindsey Mex who had beaten his wife to death at their home in Berkshire. She had confessed to having six lovers who she slept with consecutively. Her husband felt so disappointed as she blamed him for her infidelity. Due to anger, he beat her up until she died. Lindsey was sentenced to 26 years imprisonment.

There are other worst cases of victims who committed suicide because of their partner’s infidelity. Why would someone do such? These people actually have this mentality that they can’t live without their lover. They would prefer to die than deal with the pain that comes with the betrayal. Come on! Life is too short to be cut short. You should learn to love and protect yourself from doing anything that might ruin your life on the short or long run.

Let’s say you decided to take revenge by committing a crime punishable by law, then you were arrested and sent behind bars. In there you would have to go through a physical and mental torture that would make you regret your actions. You would also be separated from your family and loved ones. What about your dreams? You might not have the opportunity to achieve them if you are stuck in a prison or in a grave yard. Have you seen why you shouldn’t get into all that revenge drama?

Everyone makes mistake and no mistake is beyond pardon. When you discover your partner’s infidelity, accept it to be their weaknesses, besides, what if you were the one that cheated would you wish to be battered for it? I believe you would expect your partner to understand and forgive you. The brain’s upset and suffering after an infidelity stems from our value systems; change your value system, work on your self-control and open your heart to forgive easily and you would see that your response would be different.

Healing completely from heartbreak is realistic but it wouldn’t be easy because the mind is tricky and would replay the event for a long time. Instead of retaliating and getting yourself into situations you never planned for your life, give yourself some time to heal. Time heals all wound no matter how deep. Ask those who have gone through that path and they would tell you that a time came when the pain of the experience slipped away into the abyss. The memory might remain but the pain would be completely gone.

After you might have healed from the incident, it would be wrong to close your heart from loving again. No matter the number of heartbreaks you may have had, you might still find someone who would love and stay faithful to you. So don’t give up on finding true love and happiness.