Nearly every person I have worked with has the same relationship issue. Trying to change their partner. In my experience trying to change our partner is one of the top three relationship issues out there (unhealthy co-dependency and bad boundaries are the other two). For example, years ago when I was dating around, once the […]
Our “WE” is broken Your “We” has two “I’s” within it, the foundation of the “We”, so it makes sense to first fix the foundation that supports the relationship. To help any couple visualize what they need to work on, we draw a nest of triangles. Each triangle within this figure represents one of […]
NOTICE: IRI IS NOT A RELIGIOUS ORGANISATION We provide this information, as it is a common question during marriage counselling sessions. We provide this information for your reference ONLY. No person should stay in an emotionally or physically abusive marriage. The Bible speaks much on the subject of marriage and divorce. Check out Matthew 5:21, Matthew 19:8-9, […]
There are some things in life that can be difficult but beautiful, like raising a child. The joys certainly outweigh the challenges in most cases, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. Chasing a dream or a goal is another example. Sometimes a person may feel like quitting, but if he keeps fighting, he may get […]
Relationships can be extremely complicated, but to build and maintain quality relationships requires only a few basic principles. Let me give you seven. Trust The first is the principle of trust. All relationships are ultimately based on trust. To build trust, you always keep your word. You remain consistent and dependable in everything you say […]
The reason why weekly coaching with The Infidelity Recovery Program is imperative, is to support you as a mirror, guide on the side and thought partner on your setbacks and sustain and retain you through your growing edge, process, and progress. Just as a physical trainer will do to push you and challenge you to […]
Savannah and I have been privileged to work with many and couples that have struggled with relationship issues for close to two decades. What we have learned through this time and experience is no two people or couples are the same. However there are familiar patterns and cycles that can occur ‘within’ and ‘between’ singles […]
I see it all the time: Married couples and relationships who are withering away, married after many years but are simply pals, buddies, roommates. A long-term partnership gone stale. Newlyweds who get stuck in the weeds (wounds) after the honeymoon wears off and have no tools or resources to move forward. New parents, who after […]
The joy of marriage The birth of a child The thrill of falling in love The excitement when your team wins If you think about it, the moments we live for are all connected to relationships. Sometimes it may seem that moments like these simply happen, but the truth is, it takes intentionality, skill, […]
Growing up I was teased for being a dreamer….”Get your head out of the clouds, Joe!” was a phrase I’d often hear growing up – ‘Joseph the Dreamer! or Sometimes I would be called ‘Columbo’ after the TV Detective Character. Nearly 25 years ago, as a ‘collector of experiences’ I discovered the meaning of CONTEXT* […]