Most people say it is impossible to change another person. I have watched families beg their addicted kids to accept the gift of treatment and I know that Love is enough. You just need to express it in ways that sometimes feel unbearable to do. The fear of stopping the status quo because they threaten […]
When a friendship turns into a sexual relationship, people who are married or in an exclusive relationship have already ignored their original commitment and given themselves permission to go ahead. For some people, commitment comes with a mindfulness of the need for exclusivity, about which they have no second thoughts. For others, commitment is conditional […]
The discovery of infidelity in a relationship often breaks down the normal flow of communication, trust and collaboration. This shouldn’t come as a surprise to anyone going through it, but on the road to recovery there are many exercises and activities that you can do to help rebuild and even improve upon what was […]
Among the many couples who’ve consulted with us, we’ve come across two common problems that they fight about the most. To the passing eye, these everyday problems aren’t threatening – but any couple should know better than to ignore them. Just because they’re common, it doesn’t mean you should take them for granted. They can […]
If you’ve ever owned a car for some time, you’ve probably had it repaired for some reason. Just recently, I had problems with my own ride. I was in a rush last week to leave for an appointment when the engine refused to start. Flustered, I struggled with it for almost half an hour until […]
Previously, we discussed how to build up friendship in your marriage. We called this your Love Bank and you can keep your account balance high by making specific types of deposits. A healthy Love Bank has a good amount of friendship which you can use as “emotional currency” that you can spend during times of […]
In my last post The Key to a Happy Marriage, we talked about how Dylan and Sarah’s clashing opinions couldn’t be remedied by simply saying yes all the time. Instead, they reached a compromise by introducing the willingness to be influenced in a relationship. While a lot of couples may have different positions on an […]
Dylan, a computer programmer from Sacramento, once asked me, “Is saying yes all the time the best way to a peaceful marriage?” He came to me some time ago because of the problems that have been brewing in his relationship. During one of our meetings, Dylan described in detail the kinds of arguments he had […]
Relationships often break up because issues we are dealing with make us feel unhappy, when the promise of love is to make us feel good. And if it’s our partner who is contributing to the issues and us feeling this way, then surely THEY are to blame. Now, there is a time to walk away […]
Men look at pretty women or for that matter……they look at most all women. That goes for men who are married, men who are dating, and men who are single. That’s their nature. But is this built-in attraction with the female body a threat to their spouse, girlfriend, or partner? Why do men look at […]