Sexual compatibility is very important in most marriages. In most cases, the quality of sex determines the quality of marriage. When a couple’s sexual relationship begins to suffer, the marriage is usually suffering. But when a sexual relationship is thriving, the marriage is also thriving. Usually it’s the husband who has the greatest need for […]
Our “WE” is broken Your “We” has two “I’s” within it, the foundation of the “We”, so it makes sense to first fix the foundation that supports the relationship. To help any couple visualize what they need to work on, we draw a nest of triangles. Each triangle within this figure represents one of […]
Intimacy is a process. It takes place over time and is not stagnant. In fact, any kind of stagnation in a relationship kills intimacy. Intimacy can also take many forms. One form of intimacy is cognitive or intellectual intimacy where two people exchange thoughts, share ideas and enjoy similarities and differences between their opinions. If […]
Dan and Janet were newlyweds. They had been married about 5 months and their relationship seemed to be going well overall. But there were some growing tensions surrounding their sex life. Dan seemed to want to have sex everyday and Janet was not always in the mood. Janet did enjoy sex, but she was beginning […]
Here are some crucial actions we can take to start breaking down the barriers inside yourself that push love away: 1. Look at your history – As we delve into the ways we defend against love, it’s helpful to look at our past. We can start by looking at our current or recent relationships. Where […]
Who You Are in Relationships? This Two part series is highly recommended for anyone who desires a better understanding of their relationship type. Tools to enhance your relationship are recommended as well! Having a successful relationship is the most important and yet the most difficult aspect of our lives. Part 1 – 114min […]
In my new book, The Ecstasy of Surrender, I discuss how to manifest your full sexual power, even if you are out of touch with it now. First, you must learn to completely inhabit your body and the moment. If not now, when? Holding back, fixating on performance, or letting your mind chatter and drift is […]
Have you ever cheated? Been cheated on? Have you suffered some other devastating betrayal at the hand of the person you loved? In a recent article, author Pamela Haag offers her perspective on the issue of staying with a spouse following infidelity. She comments on the range of responses to news of infidelity — everything […]
How Shame Suffocates Love and Creativity
Healing a Hidden Block to Intimacy
Overcoming Aversion to Sex The symptoms of aversion to sex are fear of engaging in sex, trying to make the sex act as short as possible, finding that you need to build up your confidence and resolve before sex just to get through it, thinking of excuses to avoid or postpone sex, and feeling ill […]