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Your Partner Still Loves You….Even After They Cheated On You
Dec
Sometimes, couples feel a relationship growing apart before the end is near. Perhaps there is distance from one side of the relationship, or there is a missed a connection between you and your partner. This can lead to doubts about the relationship itself, and makes people wonder if their partner still loves them. We see relationships ending every day, it is no wonder we are constantly on high alert, waiting for the ones we love to wake up one day and declare they no longer have feelings towards us!
This causes us to doubt ourselves or wonder what we did wrong. We play through the motions of the relationship questioning if what we felt was genuine “love” or if it was all in our head. The reality is, we may have had a skewed sense of what love “looks” like on the inside of a long-term relationship. Love is not always filled with butterflies and enthusiasm. Yes, there is a stage, called the honeymoon stage, which lasts up to six months in a relationship. However, in a committed, long-term relationship, the overwhelming need to be close to someone and the desire to speak with them every second of every day fades over time. Just because this phase is gone, does not mean the relationship is not solid and it does not mean what was said during that stage is not still true.
What most people do not realize is love comes in phases. Sometimes it is strong, passionate, and fueled by a burning desire to be closer to our partner. Sometimes it is a soft whisper. And, sometimes, it’s on the back burner waiting to be reignited.
All this means is your love is maturing into something real. You are able to relax more with each other. You do not need to play games to win affection, and you do not need to hide parts of yourself. This is a great time to ask some open-ended questions and figure out where your partner’s head is –in terms of you, and in terms of life.
In fact, you might be missing some key elements that show your partner does love you. They may not be shown the same way as they were in the beginning, with flowers and gifts. However, as the relationship matures, you will begin to notice them in other ways. Maybe your partner makes you coffee every morning, or does the dishes when he or she comes home from work. Perhaps there are fresh towels in the morning or the bed made before sleep. If you spend too much time looking for the signs and clues your partner left in the beginning of the relationship, you will always be stuck in the beginning of the relationship and constantly craving the honeymoon feeling.
Love does not always have to be sunshine, butterflies, and roses to exist. Love comes in all different forms, and if you are not careful, you might miss the most genuine presents.
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