Making Sense of Infidelity …how understanding it all helps you Whether you are staying or leaving, there is value in understanding what the infidelity in your relationship meant, and where it came from. We cannot fully heal and let go, until certain processes are completed. When the storm settles down, as you move through the […]
In this blog, let’s examine some of the underlying feelings you may be experiencing and what forgiveness means to you. It may help you become unstuck, if that’s what you are feeling now. Please keep reading…
It is important that adult children of infidelity feel able to share their thoughts and feelings with another person—be it a parent or trusted other—rather than hold onto any anger they feel towards the unfaithful parent. Often, expressing anger or hatred leads to deeper feelings of sadness, hurt, and fear. Working to understand the main […]
Are children truly effected if one of their parents cheat? How do the children really feel about their Dad or Mom cheating? Ana Nogales, Ph.D., author of Parents Who Cheat: How Children and Adults Are Affected When Their Parents Are Unfaithful, coined the term “children of infidelity” to identify children of any age whose parent […]
When a couple begins their affair recovery journey with me, and I tell them that one of the keys to forgiveness is the development of empathy – I get some really strange looks. Some people will share with me that they have no intention of keeping their marriage – “….so why bother developing empathy for […]
Does this look familiar to you? Nagging: repetitive inquiring/asking/reminding, with a tone of escalating irritability. Why, oh why, do we nag?! It annoys the nag-ee. It actually even annoys the nagger! Plus, nagging doesn’t work. Even if it elicits the desired results (i.e., the thing we’re rattling on about actually gets accomplished), it’s with a […]
Prepare enrich assessment measure relationship closeness & flexibility with Couple & Family Maps This week we look at the prepare enrich assessment, focused on “Couple & Family Maps” derived from the Circumplex Model. The Couple and Family Maps are powerful tools to use in helping couples and families better understand why they perceive their […]
When there is too much “I” and not enough “We.” When maintaining a sense of closeness is not a priority, intimacy atrophies. It can happen gradually. One day you wake up and suddenly realize you just feel so… far away… from your partner. How did that happen? And how do you get back that sense […]
G’Day Everyone! Elle Magazine Australia recently interviewed me regarding the growing issue of women having affairs in their 1st year of marriage. For those of you who cannot grab a copy of this months Elle Magazine, Australian Edition, May 2014, I have attached the article for you. Please feel free to add your comments. Do […]
Readers Article Contribution Winston Churchill once said, “I do not ask how the wounded person feels. I simply become that wounded person.” Far too often, our society loses touch of this basic principle of empathy. And I am no exception. In fact, I have been quite the opposite for the past several months, writhing in […]